The 90%/10% Principle
will change your life (at least, the way you react to situations). The 90%/10%
principle is incredible! Very few know and apply this principle. The
Result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials,
problems and heartache.
They never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow
bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant
stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time, anger breaks
friendships, and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends
are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel.
Does this describe
you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different! Understand and apply
the 90%/10% principle. It will change your life! What is this
principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is
decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car
from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole
schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over
this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%! How?
By your reaction. You
cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people
fool you; You can control how you react! Let's use an example.
breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your
business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next
will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter
for knocking the coffee cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her,
you turn to your spouse and criticize them for placing the cup too close to the
edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change
your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to
finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must
leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to
school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed
limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you arrive
at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.
arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your
day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You
look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find small wedge in your
relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in
Why did you have a bad
A) Did the coffee
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You
had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5
seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently
say, "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your
ou come back down in time to look through the window and see your
child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before
you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you reacted.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was
determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to
apply the 90%/10% principle. If someone says something negative about you, do not
be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do have to
let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your
day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting
stressed out, etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you
lose your temper?
Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering
wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try
and bump them? Who cares if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the
cars ruin your drive.
Remember the 90%/10%
principle, and do not worry about it! You are told you lost your job. Why
lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Use your "worrying"
energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late. It is going to
mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight
attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get
to know the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things
Now you know the
principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.
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whatever happens, happens for a reason.
each day with the belief that
wonderful things are about to happen. The
earth sings in blue skies and wild flowers
may its joyful music awaken you to the
beauty of life.