Anybody can become angry, that is easy, but to be
angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and
for the right purpose, and in the right way; that is not within
everybody's power and is not easy. Let's not be angry so we could make others as
we wish them to be, since we could not make ourselves as we wish to be. Here's an
inspiring article of a couple who managed to control anger the remarkable way,
inspired by the writings of an unknown writer.
Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who
angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before - it
takes something from him.-Louis
As the story goes, a
man and a woman had been married for more than 60 years. They had shared
everything. They had kept no secrets from each other except that the little old
woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had cautioned her husband
never to open or ask her about.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of
throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.-Buddha
For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but one day the
little old woman got very sick and the doctor said she would not recover. In
trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took down the shoe box and
took it to his wife's bedside. She agreed that it was time that he should know
what was in the box. When he opened it, he found two crocheted dolls and a stack
of money totaling $95,000. He asked her about the contents.
"When we were to be married," she said, "my grandmother told me the secret of a
happy marriage was to never argue. She told me that if I ever got angry with
you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll."
The little old man was so moved; he had to fight back tears. Only two precious
dolls were in the box. She had only been angry with him two times in all those
years of living and loving. He almost burst with happiness. "Honey," he said
"that explains the doll, but what about all of this money? Where did it come
that?" she said. "That's the money I made from selling the dolls."
By Tim Pedrosa
is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and
laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.-Wayne