We can become a slave to our temper if we do not do something with what is bothering us. Getting mad is a natural emotion all of us experience but if handled in the wrong way, could lead to many unhealthy habits. Learning few ways to manage our emotion could help us lower our blood pressure and improve our relationships.

Research has shown that when our temper is rising, slowing it down is sometimes as simple as counting to ten. If you feel your frustration with the situation or person is reaching a maximum level, take a longer break. Time outs are probably the most effective way to deal with anger.

Getting more physical exercise will also help keep more of our temper in check. When we feel that our temper is going up, let us go for a jog, a run or do one of our other favorite exercises. This will make our brain produce more good chemicals that help us loosen up and calm down. 

By staying calm, we can express our needs and wants in a non-confrontational manner. When we identify what makes us mad, it will greatly help our mental and physical health as well as the relationships being affected by overflowing temper.

Holding onto anger is like holding onto a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you're the one who gets burned.  ~Buddha

Holding on to something that makes us mad crowds out the positive feelings in favor of the negative, the bitter ones. We will only have room for the injustice we are feeling. We could cause great injuries to ourselves and others if we do not manage our anger properly.

Hurt feelings, harsh words, nasty misunderstandings leave deep imprints in our minds and hearts. As human, we tend to dwell on the cruel and unkind violations against us. I have my own share of anger and frustrations that I had nurtured for many years. But I used them as positive stress to fuel my intense determination to meet life’s challenges, improve myself and be happy.

Letting go of our anger and frustration about things that have occurred in the past is difficult and sometimes seems insurmountable. If we hold on to them and refuse to let go, the wounds grow deeper and fester. The pain keeps us from finding peace within ourselves.

Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten. ~Buddha

It is time to let go when holding on to the anger no longer serves us. When carrying the burden of anger, resentment and frustration keeps us from moving in the direction of our ideals. When they keep us from growing and becoming the person we seek to be.

We begin by letting go. Just letting go. We begin by no longer allowing ourselves to dwell on the negative and relive the injustices. We should focus on recovering from the injury by sticking to what is good, what is true, what is honest and what is real. We recover by surrounding ourselves with loved ones we can trust and by moving on.

Finding peace within ourselves doesn't mean we forget about the things that hurt us, but rather, it means we choose to release them. To learn to live and love in a place where past grievances no longer touch us, deeply brings wisdom. A life where harmony resides.

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By Tim Pedrosa

Anybody can become angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not within everybody's power and is not easy. -Aristotle