We can become a slave to our temper if we do not do something
with what is bothering us. Getting mad is a natural emotion all of us experience
but if handled in the wrong way, could lead to many unhealthy habits. Learning
few ways to manage our emotion could help us lower our blood pressure and
improve our relationships.
Research has shown that when our temper is rising, slowing it down is
sometimes as simple as counting to ten. If you feel your frustration with the
situation or person is reaching a maximum level, take a longer break. Time outs
are probably the most effective way to deal with anger.
Getting more physical exercise will also help keep more of our temper in check.
When we feel that our temper is going up, let us go for a jog, a run or do one of
our other favorite exercises. This will make our brain produce more good
chemicals that help us loosen up and calm down.
By staying calm, we can express our needs and wants in a
non-confrontational manner. When we identify what makes us mad, it will greatly
help our mental and physical health as well as the relationships being affected
by overflowing temper.
Holding onto anger is like holding onto a hot coal with the intent of
throwing it at someone else; you're the one who gets burned.
Holding on to something that makes us mad crowds out
the positive feelings in favor of the negative, the bitter ones. We
will only have room for the injustice we are feeling. We could cause great injuries to
ourselves and others if we do not manage our anger properly.
Hurt feelings, harsh words,
nasty misunderstandings leave deep imprints in our minds and hearts. As human,
we tend to dwell on the cruel and unkind violations against us. I have my own
share of anger and frustrations that I had nurtured for many years. But I used
positive stress to fuel my intense
determination to meet life’s challenges, improve myself and be happy.
Letting go of our anger and frustration about things that have occurred in the
past is difficult and sometimes seems insurmountable. If we hold on
to them and refuse to let go, the wounds grow deeper and fester. The pain keeps
us from finding peace within ourselves.
Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished
in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are
It is time to let go when holding on to the anger no longer serves us. When
carrying the burden of anger, resentment and frustration keeps us from
moving in the direction of our ideals. When they keep us from growing and
becoming the person we seek to be.
We begin by letting go. Just letting go. We begin by no longer allowing
ourselves to dwell on the negative and relive the injustices. We should focus on
recovering from the injury by sticking to what is good, what is true, what is
honest and what is real. We recover by surrounding
ourselves with loved ones we can trust and by moving on.
Finding peace within ourselves doesn't mean we forget about the things that hurt
us, but rather, it means we choose to release them. To learn to live and love in
a place where past grievances no longer touch us, deeply brings wisdom. A life
where harmony resides.
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Throwing Darts at People
By Tim Pedrosa
Anybody can become angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person
and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in
the right way, that is not within everybody's power and is not easy. -Aristotle