Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood. When
we dare to face the things that scare us, we open the door to
freedom. Most of our obstacles will melt away if instead of cowering
before them or procrastinating about dealing with them, we make up
our mind to walk boldly through them.
strong when you are weak. Be brave when you are scared.
Be humble when you are victorious
have the right attitude, we would not be afraid to take the step we
need to face the obstacle before us. To fight fear we must maintain
mental attitude. Waiting, putting off,
postponing or procrastinating only increases fear.
Sometimes we just have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting and
have faith that things will work out, maybe not how we planned, but
just how they're meant to be. Here's narrative of a fellow who
learned that a right frame of mind makes a difference when facing
barriers; and instead of worrying, enjoy the voyage.
By good fortune, I was able to raft down the Motu
River in New Zealand twice during the last year. The magnificent
four-day journey traverses one of the last wilderness areas in the
The first expedition was led by "Buzz", an American
guide with a great deal of rafting experience and many stories to
tell of mighty rivers such as the Colorado. With a leader like Buzz,
there was no reason to be skeptical, to fear any of the great rapids on the Motu.
The first half day, in the gentle upper reaches, was
spent developing teamwork and co-ordination. Strokes had to be
mastered, and the discipline of following commands without question
was essential. In the boiling fury of a rapid, there would be no
room for any mistake. When Buzz bellowed above the roar of the
water, an instant reaction was essential.
We mastered the Motu. In every rapid we fought
against the river and we overcame it. The screamed commands of Buzz
were matched only by the fury of our paddles, as we took the raft
exactly where Buzz wanted it to go.
At the end of the journey, there was a great feeling
of triumph. We had won. We proved that we were superior. We knew
that we could do it. We felt powerful and good. The mystery and
majesty of the Motu had been overcome.
The second time I went down the Motu. the experience
I had gained should have been invaluable, but the guide on this
journey was a very softly spoken Kiwi. It seemed that it would not
even be possible to hear his voice above the noise of the rapids.
As we approached the first rapid, he never even
raised his voice. He did not attempt to take command of us or the
river. Gently and quietly he felt the mood of the river and watched
every little whirlpool. There was no drama and no shouting. There
was no contest to be won. He loved the river.
We sped through each rapid with grace and beauty and,
after a day, the river had become our friend, not our enemy. Our
skepticism gradually disappeared and nervousness replaced by
quiet Kiwi was not our leader, but only the person whose sensitivity
was more developed than our own. Laughter replaced the tension of
Soon the quiet Kiwi was able to lean back and let all
of us take turns as leader. A quiet nod was enough to draw attention
to the things our lack of experience prevented us from seeing. If we
made a mistake, then we laughed and it was the next person's turn.
We began to penetrate the mystery of the Motu. Now,
like the quiet Kiwi, we listened to the river and we looked
carefully for all those things we had not even noticed the first
not what you go through that defines you; you canít help
that. Itís what you do after youíve gone through it
that really tests who you are.
At the end of the journey, we had overcome nothing
except ourselves. We did not want to leave behind our friend, the
river. There was no contest, and so nothing had been won. Rather we
had become one with the river.
It remains difficult to believe that the external
circumstances of the two journeys were similar. The difference was
in an attitude and a frame of mind. At the end of the journey, it
seemed that there could be no other way. Given the opportunity to
choose a leader, everyone would have chosen someone like Buzz. At
the end of the second journey, we had glimpsed a very different
vision and we felt humble - and intensely happy.
Sometimes we have take the rough with a smooth and upbeat
attitude; we have to keep looking for the silver lining in the
clouds when we are confronted with challenges. Let us remember that no
one is lucky enough to be trouble-free his/her whole life. So every time we fall down, every time we have trouble, let's cheer up, get
up and keep moving, keep our sights on the big goal. Let's not allow the
temporary bruise worry us.
By Tim Pedrosa
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Even though you may want to move forward in your life,
you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be
free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt.
Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The
energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you
back from a new life. What is it you would let go of
today?-Mary Manin Morrissey