No matter how bad people may seem, they possess at least one virtue. Let us be like the humming bird and pick out the sweetness of everyone’s character not their transgressions.

If we could look into each other's hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care.

Here’s an article inspired by the book of Nelson Mandela: “Long Walk To Freedom”

During Nelson Mandela's 19 years imprisoned on Robben Island, one particular commanding officer was the most brutal of them all. He wrote: "A few days before Badenhorst's departure, I was called to the main office. General Steyn was visiting the island and wanted to know if we had any complaints. Badenhorst was there as I went through a list of demands. When I had finished, Badenhorst spoke to me directly.

Always be mindful of the kindness and not the faults of others.-Buddha

He told me he would be leaving the island and added: 'I just want to wish you people good luck'. I do not know if I looked dumbfounded, but I was amazed. He spoke these words like a human being and showed a side of himself we had never seen before. I thanked him for his good wishes and wished him luck in his endeavors.

I thought about this moment for a long time afterwards. Badenhorst had perhaps been the most callous and barbaric commanding officer we had had on Robben Island. But that day in the office, he had revealed that that there was another side to his nature, a side that had been obscured but still existed.

People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

It was a useful reminder that all men, even the most seemingly cold-blooded, have a core of decency and that, if their hearts are touched, they are capable of changing. Ultimately, Badenhorst was not evil; his inhumanity had been foisted upon him by an inhuman system. He behaved like a brute because he was rewarded for brutish behavior."

It's easy to look at people and make quick judgments about them, their present and their past, but we would be amazed at the pain and tears a single smile hides. What a person shows to the world is only one tiny facet of the iceberg hidden from sight. And more often than not, it's lined with cracks and scars that go all the way to the foundation of that person’s soul. Never judge, learn to respect and acknowledge the feelings of others.  

By Tim Pedrosa


Be nice and smile to everyone you meet. You don’t know what they are going through, and they might just need that smile. At least for a moment, it would make a lot of difference to them. Life gives us many such moments to make others feel better. For tomorrow when you feel low, someone might smile and you may feel better. ~unknown

 

Tim