No matter how bad people may
seem, they possess at least one virtue. Let us
be like the humming bird and pick out the
sweetness of everyone’s character not their
If we could look into each
other's hearts, and understand the unique
challenges each of us faces, I think we would
treat each other much more gently, with more
love, patience, tolerance, and care.
Here’s an article inspired by the book of Nelson
Mandela: “Long Walk To Freedom”
During Nelson Mandela's 19 years
imprisoned on Robben Island, one particular
commanding officer was the most brutal of them
all. He wrote: "A few days before Badenhorst's
departure, I was called to the main office.
General Steyn was visiting the island and wanted
to know if we had any complaints. Badenhorst was
there as I went through a list of demands. When
I had finished, Badenhorst spoke to me directly.
Always be mindful of the kindness
and not the faults of others.-Buddha
He told me he would be leaving
the island and added: 'I just want to wish you
people good luck'. I do not know if I looked
dumbfounded, but I was amazed. He spoke these
words like a human being and showed a side of
himself we had never seen before. I thanked him
for his good wishes and wished him luck in his
I thought about this moment for a
long time afterwards. Badenhorst had perhaps
been the most callous and barbaric commanding
officer we had had on Robben Island. But that
day in the office, he had revealed that that
there was another side to his nature, a side
that had been obscured but still existed.
People will forget what you said.
People will forget what you did, but
people will never forget how you
made them feel.
It was a useful reminder that all
men, even the most seemingly cold-blooded, have
a core of decency and that, if their hearts are
touched, they are capable of changing.
Ultimately, Badenhorst was not evil; his
inhumanity had been foisted upon him by an
inhuman system. He behaved like a brute because
he was rewarded for brutish behavior."
It's easy to look at people and
make quick judgments about them, their present
and their past, but we would be amazed at the
pain and tears a single smile hides. What a
person shows to the world is only one tiny facet
of the iceberg hidden from sight. And more often
than not, it's lined with cracks and scars that
go all the way to the foundation of that
person’s soul. Never judge, learn to respect and
acknowledge the feelings of others.
Be nice and smile to
everyone you meet. You don’t know what they are going through, and they
might just need that smile. At least for a moment, it would make a lot
of difference to them. Life gives us many such moments to make others
feel better. For tomorrow when you feel low, someone might smile and you
may feel better. ~unknown