Bragging is
inherent to us, humans.
We do have that innate craving to attract attention and make impression.
It is rooted in our quest for self-recognition, self-importance, search
for power and self-centeredness. It usually comes in different forms, various ways and
means with buddies, envy and greed.
When I was
growing up, a certain sign was predominant in our place: "So That The
People Will Know," which was then followed by list of accomplishments
and other good things about the person. Later this trend was exploited
not only by politicians by those who wanted to promote their own
selfish agenda: to attract attention, to feel important and superior,
and other egotistical gestures to satisfy one's self-centeredness.
Perhaps
the less we have, the more we have the tendency to brag, boast or blow our horn to
compensate our inadequacy and deficiencies.
A great man,
however, is
known and he needs no introduction.
We learn in life that when pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with
humility comes wisdom and honor. True humility is an intelligent self-respect
which keeps us from thinking too highly of ourselves or what we have.
It makes us modest by reminding us how far we have come short of what we
can be.
Falsehood often lurks upon the tongue of him, who, by
self-praise, seeks to enhance his value in the eyes of
others-James Gordon Bennett |
St. Francis de
Sales encourages us to be humble. He once said that the
beginning of greatness is to be little; to increase greatness is to be
less, and the perfection of greatness is to be nothing.
He said that the world’s idea
of greatness is to rule, but Christian greatness consists in serving; that the less there is of us, the more the light shines through; that he who
does not stay in his littleness, loses his greatness.
A blameless and
respectable person is one who humbles himself if necessity compels him
to humble another;
who does not
praise wealth, look fiercely before power, nor boast of his own
possessions or achievements.
He is
honorable who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and
sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and
feelings of others rather than his own; and who appears well in any
company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.
The
person who toots his own horn has everyone running to get
out of the way. |
When I hear some folks blow and
brag, I remember the story of the flea who said to the elephant, "Boy,
how we shook that bridge when we crossed." Boasting is seldom
associated with real greatness, it only displays immaturity, pride,
arrogance and ignorance.
Egotism degrades while
showing off depreciates the moral character. It is hard to ignore the
display of vanity, boastfulness and arrogance... in what we receive
and what we encounter everyday.
It is that
spirit of exaggeration, the use of such superlative
expressions and the continuous efforts to brag that lead us to lose sight of the positive and the comparative
effect on our dulled senses. We lose the moral sense to such an extent
that things which appeared disagreeable to us one time may now seem entirely
acceptable because of the power of persuasion.
Sometimes the
urge to sing our own praises is so strong that we fail to realize
that putting our actions where our mouth is, creates negative, dangerous
and unflattering outcome.
As the story goes, two geese were about to start
southward on their annual migration, when they were entreated by a frog
to take him with them. The geese expressed their willingness to do so if
a means of conveyance could be devised.
The frog produced a long stalk of
pong grass, got the geese each to grab the end with their beaks, while
he clung to it by his mouth in the middle. In this way, the three began
their journey as seen in the banner picture. If you look closer you'll
see the tiny frog hanging between the two geese.
Some farmers below noticed the strange sight. The men
loudly expressed their admiration for the travel device and wondered who
had been clever enough to discover it.
Whereupon the arrogant frog
opened his mouth to say, “It was I,” lost his grip, fell to the earth,
and was dashed to pieces.
Bragging usually
has no positive effects; it would not attract any real friends. However, we
should not take to mean a sincere and unpretentious effort to share valuable
and entertaining information as a way of covering a selfish motive to
show off.
The Bible
encourages us to share our knowledge and wisdom that could touch the
lives of others, otherwise they would
fade away.
It is when we
undertake to set ourselves above anybody by vain conceit that makes us a shipwrecked by laughter and ridicule
of others. Truly, he who humbles himself will be exalted; while he who exalts
himself will be humbled.
By Tim Pedrosa
Have you observed a rice field
and noticed which heads are bent and which ones stand up
straight? Well, the empty heads are standing tall and high. The
heads that are filled with grains are bending low. Indeed,
the true great and strong people are humble and gentle. True
giants don't mind bowing low. |