If we allow bitterness and resentment to fester inside or keep on blaming others, it will make our relationships guarded and unsatisfying. By letting go of the frustration, sorrow and negativity, we can keep our spirit open and loving. Remaining open to life, with its constant ups and downs, adventures and opportunities to grow, is the only way to reach our full potential.

When something goes wrong, we should not look back at it for a long time but take the reason into our mind and then look forward. Failure or mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in our power.

The couple in the following narrative tried to deal with their greatest tragedy the best way possible.

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes.

It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.-Daisaku Ikeda

One morning, when the boy was around two years old, the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and put it in the cupboard. The mother, preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to it and, fascinated with its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages.

When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned; she was terrified. How would she face her husband?

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words. “I love you darling.”

The husband’s totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he has taken time to put the bottle away, this would not have happened.

Always be mindful of the kindness and not the faults of others.
To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.-Elbert Hubbard

No point in attaching blame. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who’s to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know and miss out on the warmth in human relationships we could receive by giving each other support.

After all, shouldn’t forgiving someone we love be the easiest thing in the world to do?

Treasure what you have. Don’t multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding onto forgiveness. Let go of all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive, selfishness, and fears and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

If everyone could look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be fewer problems in the world.

By Tim Pedrosa

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Accepting others unconditionally allows them to remove their masks and feel at ease with who they are. The security of being accepted gives them the freedom to be themselves and then lets them easily know and accept themselves too. ~unknown

Tim