A good deed is never lost. He who sows courtesy,
reaps friendship and he who plants kindness, gathers love.
Pleasure bestowed on a grateful
mind is spotlessly clean and generally, gratitude
begets reward. Courtesies cannot be borrowed
like snow shovels; we must have some of our own.
Let us learn from the following encouraging
thoughts inspired by the writings of an unknown
writer.
Courtesy is the use of
polite manners. A courteous person is respectful
and considerate of others. Courteous behavior
requires a selfless attitude and can give our
perspective on the situation of others. It can build our reputation as a
respectable and thoughtful person. It means being
polite and treating others with equal respect as
we would treat ourselves. Courtesy and manners
go hand-in-hand as courtesy means putting good
manner into practice.
Showing consideration
and good manners brings out a feeling of being worthy
which being courteous entails. The problem with
common courtesy is that, we easily forget about
it. So little effort is required to be
courteous that actually, it takes less effort and
energy than to be harsh.
Everyone wants to be acknowledged and
appreciated. To be able to achieve that, we need
to be courteous towards people if we want the
same treatment for ourselves. Even in situations
where we have authority over some people and we
need to tell them what to do, we must not exert
a negative authority over them. It is more
pleasant to ask them in a courteous way. Bosses
who treat their subordinates with courtesy
always have a much loyal and productive staff.
Chances are, our parents
taught us to say "thank you" and "you're
welcome," but a courteous attitude is about more
than the basics. When we watch our behavior, we
do not embarrass ourselves nor others. We can
always
look for ways to help and please others. For instances,
when we open the door for someone whose hands
are full, we not only do courteous behaviors, it also
makes us a more pleasant person to be around.
I have learned that courteous behavior is
directly related to showing respect: avoiding from
telling others what to do, interrupting and
criticizing. Instead, we should make a habit of
asking, listening, complimenting and thanking to
show respect. I have always been trying to
identify and pinpoint areas where I am lacking
in courtesy and have been trying very hard to
improve them. I had the tendency to interrupt
people and I am so grateful that somebody closed
to me pointed that out. I did realize how
someone must have felt when I interrupted them
during the conversation.
It is not very hard to
notice that there are some of us who
portray ourselves as arrogant, discourteous or resentful by ignoring
or not responding when
message or greetings are sent to them. Obviously these people may
have inferiority complex or may have
relationship troubles
with their family, friends or
in dealing with their daily routine activities. Showing unconcern for
others' feelings, a critical attitude and
inconsiderate behaviors, creates an atmosphere
of tension and frustration. It is common that
such behaviors may pass without confrontation and
emotions but such rude conducts can send a
message to others that these people do not accept, appreciate, approve nor respect
others.
I have learned that
by just being courteous, many brilliant and
talented people would have been successful in
life, but have ignored the opportunity or chance by losing
grip of one of the simplest and most noble
virtues in the world. There is every
reason to be courteous and no justification for
rudeness, by treating other people with respect
and dignity. Rudeness is the weak man’s
imitation of strength. So, it is in our own best
interest to always, at all time, exhibit courtesy
in all we do and forge ahead in life with
confidence. Let us
take this as a courtesy call to every one of us.
By Tim Pedrosa
He who sows
courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants
kindness gathers love. The
measure of a truly great man is the courtesy
with which he treats lesser men. |
Tim
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