When we are surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement could fade away,
and we tend to ignore the true love that lies in between peace and dullness.
It could happen to anyone in any relationship.
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Love is
the doorway through which the human soul passes from selfishness to service,
and from solitude to kinship with all mankind.-Author Unknown |
Life could become repetitive,
uninteresting, unexciting, dull, wearisome, tedious, monotonous or boring;
consequently, we have the tendency to be sensitive, touchy, irritable, ill-tempered, short-tempered
or depressed.
We tend to blame others, particularly our spouse, if we are not rational enough to
analyze the situation. We impatiently find some diversions, like drugs,
gambling, etc... that are risky, dangerous and have led to many
shattered lives.
We have to be on our guard against
boredom; it's the mother of all the deadly sins. An idle mind is the devil's
workshop (English
Proverb).
The
heart of the wise inclines to the right, but the heart of the fool to the left (Ecclesiastes 10:2 ).
However,
with constructive attitude, we can find happiness by transforming our world from one of monotony and
dullness to one of excitement and adventure. Peace and happiness
could be ours by finding reasons to be grateful for the abundant blessings all
of us have plenty to enjoy.
There was a beautiful and inspiring story written by a certain
Stephen that I came across several years back. It tells us how a faithful and
dedicated husband skillfully handled the dilemma of his bored and fed up wife.
After three years of courtship and several of years into marriage, she
would admit, that she was getting tired of it. The reasons of her loving him
before, had transformed into the cause of all her restlessness.
She is a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes
to a relationship, her feelings or what she wants to have. She always yearns for the romantic moments, constant attention
and the material things, like a little girl yearning for candy. Her husband is
her complete opposite. His lack of sensitivity and inability to please her
always has disheartened her about their
relationship.
One day, she finally decided to tell him her decision, that she
wanted a divorce.
“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for
everything in the world!” She answered. He kept silent the whole night, seemed to
be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times.
Her feeling of
disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his
predicament, what else could she hope from him? Finally he asked her:" What
can I do to change your mind?”
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Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They
bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.–
Barbara de Ange |
Looking deep into his eyes, she slowly answered: “Here is the
question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s
say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both know
that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said:
"I will give you your answer tomorrow….” Her hopes just sank by listening
to his response.
She woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of
paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass on the dining
table, that goes…. "My dear, I would not pick that flower
for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” The first line
was already breaking her heart. She continued reading.
“When you use the computer, you are irritated when it is very
slow and you mess it up, I have to save my fingers so that
I can help fix and restore it. You always leave the house keys behind, thus
I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
You love traveling
but always lose your way in a new place, I have to save my eyes to show you the
way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every
month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected
by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to
cure your boredom. You do not want to tarnish your manicured fingernails so I have to try
very hard to prepare our meal and see to
it that I do the
clean up.
I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help
to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also
hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the
beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the
glow on your beautiful face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is
someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and
die.. ”
Her tears fell on the letter and blurred the ink of his
handwriting… and as she continued on reading… “Now, that you have finished
reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am
standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk…" She rushed to pull
open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the
milk bottle and loaf of bread….
Now she is very sure that no one will ever love her as much as he
does, and she has decided to leave the flower alone…
Love
shows up in all forms, even very small and intricate forms. There has never been a
model. It could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers and romantic
moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all
these, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s how our life goes… Love, not words win
arguments…
By Tim Pedrosa
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You will find, as you look back upon your life that the moments
that stand out, the moments when you have really lived, are the
moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.–
Henry Drummond |
Tim
