Always be mindful of the kindness and not the faults of others. No one can make us feel inferior without our consent. If we judge people, we have no time to love them because we do not define them, we define ourselves. We will happy if do not judge quickly; we will be happier if we forgive everything and we will be happiest if we love everybody and everything.

The wise learn from the mistakes of others, instead of judging them.

It was very easy for the mother of a lovely little girl who was holding two apples, as the story goes, to be disappointed when she came in and softly asked her little daughter to give her one of the two apples. The girl looked up at her mom for some seconds, then she suddenly took a quick bite on one apple, and then quickly on the other.

The mom felt the smile on her face freeze. She tried hard not to reveal her appointment. Then the little girl handed one of her bitten apples to her mom, and said: Here you are, Mommy. This is the sweeter one.

I have learned that no matter who we are, how experienced we are, and how knowledgeable we think we are, we should always delay judgment and give others the privilege/opportunity to explain themselves. What we see may not be the reality.

Don't bother about people who judge you without knowing you. Remember, dogs bark if they don't know the person.

I have also learned, never to conclude for others; that we should never focus only on the surface and judge others without understanding them first. For instance those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but, because they value friendship above money. Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Likewise, those who apologize first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them. Those who are willing to help us, do so not because they owe us anything but because they see us as a true friend. Those who often contact us, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because we are in their heart. Those who take out time to chat with us, does not mean they are jobless nor less busy, but they know the importance of keeping in touch.

One day, all of us will get disconnected from each other. Days will pass by, months, years, and when we look back and we could say with heart-felt gratitude that it was with those friends that we had, some of the best days of our lives for they were there when no one else; they were there in good times and in bad times.

By Tim Pedrosa


  Your job isn't to judge. Your job isn't to figure out if someone deserves something nor decide who is right or wrong. Your job is to lift the fallen, restore the broken and heal the hurting.-Joel Osteen