There is no need of justifying ourselves to others, until we can justify ourselves to our own conscience. Let us never change ourselves to conform to society’s shackles and chains. Our uniqueness will always make us beautiful.

It won’t help comparing ourselves to other people. We will only find what we expect to find. If we think we are weak, everyone else will seem stronger. If we think we are strong, everyone else will seem weaker. There is no point in doing this. Let us simply look at where we are now, and aim to get better as we go forward.

 It is good to have big dreams. It is good to want to succeed. But if we start comparing ourselves to others, it opens the door for the enemy to steal our joy. If we don't learn to be happy where we are, we will never get to where we want to be. But if we choose to be happy, refuse self-pity and refuse to complain, then we are sowing good seeds for God to take us where we want to be in our future.

Let us lend ourselves to others, but let us give ourselves to them. When we compare ourselves with others, we will always find both greater and lesser people than we are. It is better to concentrate on becoming the best person possible and never allow ourselves to be defined by someone else opinion as we learn from the following parable inspired by the writings of an unknown writer. The story of crow and peacock will make us realize the value of our own property. It is a very good story not just for kids but for all age groups.

As the story goes, a crow lived in the forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan. “This swan is so white,” he thought, “and I am so black. This swan must be the happiest bird in the world.”

He expressed his thoughts to the swan. “Actually,” the swan replied, “I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation.” The crow then approached the parrot. The parrot explained, “I lived a very happy life until I saw a peacock. I have only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors.”

The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see him. After the people had left, the crow approached the peacock. “Dear peacock,” the crow said, “you are so beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. When people see me, they immediately shoo/drive me away. I think you are the happiest bird on the planet.”

The peacock replied, “I always thought that I was the most beautiful and happy bird on the planet. But because of my beauty, I am entrapped in this zoo. I have examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the crow is the only bird not kept in a cage. So for past few days, I have been thinking that if I were a crow, I could happily roam everywhere.”

That's our problem too. We make unnecessary comparison with others and become sad. We don't value what God has given us. This all leads to the vicious cycle of unhappiness. Let us learn to be happy in what we have instead of looking at what we don't have. There will always be someone who will have more or less than we have. When we are satisfied with what we have, we are the happiest person in the world.

By Tim Pedrosa

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; Define yourself.