Egotism is the drive to maintain and enhance favorable views of oneself, and generally features an inflated opinion of one's personal features and importance: intellectual, physical, social and others. The egotist has an overwhelming sense of the centrality of the 'Me' of his/her personal qualities.

It is placing oneself at the core of one's world; an excessive and objectionable reference to oneself in conversation or writing; conceit; boastfulness, selfishness; self-centeredness generated in different forms, ways and means.

I have learned that in meetings and gatherings, egotist is one who has his/her Is too close together, always me-deep in conversation and tries to dominate the discussions.

Self centered people have only one topic to talk about, themselves -Stef Harder

Egocentricity is a vanity that makes us wonder what people are thinking about us when they are really wondering what we are thinking about them.

The great Dalai Lama advises us to understand that we are not independently existing entity; that we should begin to view ourselves instead in terms of our dependent relation to others. Although merely reflecting on this may not produce a profound spiritual realization, it will at least have some effect. Our mind will be more open.

Something will begin to change within us and there will definitely be a positive and beneficial effect in reversing our attitude from self-centeredness to other-centeredness, from belief in self-existence to belief in co-existence.

We are so wrapped up with egotistical things, career, family, having enough money, getting a new car, etc. We are involved in trillions of little acts just to keep going so we donít get into the habit of standing back and looking at our lives and saying, is this all? Is this all I want? Is something missing?

Intolerance or narrow-mindedness is the most socially acceptable form of egotism, for it permits us to assume superiority without personal boasting. Some people often prefer to be right rather than compassionate and often, they don't want to give up their egotism. They want and keep on endorsing their ego, their identity.

We have self-centered minds which get us into plenty of trouble. If we do not come to understand the error in the way we think, our self-awareness, which is our greatest blessing, is also our downfall as we could learn from the following anecdote.

As the story goes, there was once a learned scientist. After a lot of practice and efforts, he developed a formula and learned the art of reproducing himself. He did it so perfectly that it was impossible to tell the reproduction from the original.

One day while doing his research, he realized that the Angel of Death was searching for him. In order to remain immortal he reproduced a dozen copies of himself. The reproduction was so meticulous that all of them looked exactly like him. Now when this Angel of Death came down, he was at a loss to know which of the thirteen before him was the original scientist, and confused, he left them all alone and returned back to heaven.

But, not for long, for being an expert in human nature, the Angel came up with a clever idea. He said to the scientist addressing all thirteen of them, "Sir, you must be a genius to have succeeded in making such perfect reproduction formula of yourself. However, I have discovered a flaw in your work, just one tiny little flaw."

The scientist immediately jumped out and shouted, "Impossible! Where is the flaw?" "Right here," said the Angel, as he picked up the scientist from among the reproductions and carried him off.

The whole purpose of the scientist and his formula of reproduction failed as he could not control his pride and ego, lost his life.

While oneís knowledge and skills takes one to the top of the ladder and makes one successful, the three letter word "EGO" can pull one down immediately. Our ego is one thing that can keep growing without nourishment. So, let us let go our ego.

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By Tim Pedrosa

We are addicted to our egotism, our likes and dislikes and prejudices, and depend upon them for our own sense of identity.