We don't have to live with regrets. We can choose to move on and
forget; cherish every moment and seize every opportunity. Our
outlook will determine the course of our life and we can renew our mind
and rediscover the joy of living in the present.
live with self-awareness and compassion, do as much as and the
best we can, then whatever happens, we will have no regrets. We don't have
to look back but look forward with hope, faith and confidence.
rather have a life full of mistakes than a heart full of regrets. My
mistakes were from a lifetime of taking chances, making
decisions, trying not to be frozen but to grow for the better and pursue
we get on the wrong train in our journey we call life, but when we stick to what is good, what is true, what
what is real, we get to the right and wonderful destination that God has
prepared for those who have faith and humility. We may have some regrets, but all we can do is
understand and learn from them and then.... put them aside.
When we see the world in its true light,
we will be able
to do good, live pleasantly, contentedly, happily, and when summoned away by our
Creator, we leave
Here's a narrative about most common regrets derived
from the book of Bronnie Ware,
Top Five Regrets of the Dying – A Life Transformed by the Dearly
For many years I worked in palliative care (area
of healthcare that focuses on relieving and preventing the suffering of
patients). My patients were those who
had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was
with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt
never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were
phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial,
fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every
single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do
differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the
life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that
their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see
how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even
a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices
they had made, or not made.
A man is not old until regrets take the place of his
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their
children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of
this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the
female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed
deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with
others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never
became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses
relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may
initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in
the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends
until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them
down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let
golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets
about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.
Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end
that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and
habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their
emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them
pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When
deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way
from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long
before you are dying.
choosing the road of life that we have passion on, we can live with
no regrets; we can never blame ourselves for making wrong choices
because we follow our passion.
Life is a choice. It is your life. Choose consciously, choose wisely,
choose honestly. Choose happiness.
By Tim Pedrosa
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