It is normal for all of us to develop negative
and toxic attitudes at times, and no one is
invulnerable to mood swings or thoughts. It is important that we manage
to identify the thoughts that create it,
together with what will change how we think.
We all have a negative side buried deep within
us, and it has the potential of bubbling up to
the surface when we least expect it. The key is
our awareness, to identify the toxic thoughts
and behaviors when they happen and stop them in
time. Through the years, I have learned to
identify some toxic and
negative thoughts and have somehow managed to
handle some of them and free myself to live a
truly happy life.
Instead of complaining, for instance, I try to
accept and be grateful for what I have; enjoy
and be happy in every circumstance/situation
rather than chasing happiness. Our goal is to
live a meaningful and joyful life to find happiness.
No matter how much we know, how much
we have learned, we should never
think that we are done learning.
Let us keep an open mind, because
sometimes, the things we thought we
knew end up giving us some valuable
We could lose our passion, sense of romance and
even our long-standing friendship if we only listen to our logic.
Occasionally, we just need to try new things,
and just do what feels right to us. Man did not invent
the plane because flying made sense, he invented
it because he had a passion; because he wanted
to do something that seemingly defied logic and
make it come true.
When we find ourselves in a circle of self-hate
or lack of self-confidence, we can learn to see
things positively by challenging and proving to
ourselves and to others that we have
self-respect and that no one has control over
what we can and cannot do.
Many of us are constantly on the hunt for other
people's approval. We are stuck with the
desperate need to prove our worth, time after
time, always trying to get positive attention
from the people around us. I have learned that
there is a much bigger picture to look at in
life, and there's much more for which to strive
than other people's approval. If we want people
to love us, let us help and give them the love
we wish to receive. They may not always give it
back, but it will help us find happiness in
giving rather than receiving.
It's not easy letting go; it takes hard work and
focus, but it's worth the effort when we feel
that weight lifting from our shoulders. Let us
stop reading old chapters in our book of life
and start making some new ones; learn from our
past mistakes and move forward. Sure, there will
be new mistakes to make, but that is part of
living a meaningful life.
Let us be humble, admit our mistakes
and know when to ask for
forgiveness; let us remember those
to whom we owe our success.
It is easy to believe that everything that
happens around us is somehow connected to us
personally. I have learned, however, most people
make their choices based on what they're going
through themselves. Let us not take things
personally, others are just trying to find their
own way through good and bad days alike.
Sometimes, we all tell little white lies.
However, being open and honest with one another;
helping others see the world the way it exists, is
better instead of selling them illusions. Life
is easier when we are simply being honest and
have nothing to hide.
Neglect is almost as bad as abuse to some of us.
Many of us wish we had worked less and made more
time for our loved ones. Let us take the time to
have a really good conversation with our family
members every once-in-a-while. Life is too
short, let us make the right choices so we don't
regret them later.
By Tim Pedrosa
loss is a big part of life, and keeping them fresh in our memory only
causes them to last longer. One of the hardest things to do is to
let go of the pain that we both hate and jealously keep, whether that
pain comes from guilt, anger or tragic loss. Sometimes forgetting and
letting go is the only choice that can cure us and release
us emotionally from memories we use to haunt ourselves.