No one ever kicks a dead dog. So when we
are kicked and criticized, let us remember that
it is often done because it gives the kicker a
feeling of importance. It often means that we
are accomplishing something and we are worthy of
attention. Many people get a sense of savage
satisfaction out of denouncing those who are
better off than they are or more successful,
according to Dale Carnegie.
our society, there are people who derive pleasure
and feel powerful when tormenting, harassing,
bullying or singling out someone. The responses
of the victim feed the feeling of power in the
tormenter. The victim is selected because the
jealous and needs to
make him/her feel superior and the only way
he/she knows is
through abuse. We must be doing something
well/right if someone torments us. We feel the
hurt because we are not a dead dog, but we
should take solace in the fact that it is our
success that is causing it.
Let us find the seeds of our jealousy. Let us
focus our energy on what is good, what is true,
what is honest and what is real and we will be
building our personal and emotional security.
Then we will be the one others envy. Many
envious people do not know that they are
envious. Actually, envy is as common as the
common cold but it is as deadly as cancer. It is
like a mental cancer that destroys our lives,
our relationships, and our happiness.
Envy is one of the most destructive things on
planet earth. Envy destroys relationship.
Envy kills. It kills the envier. It is a lethal,
slow-acting poison that over time kills. The
Bible is so graphic when it describes what envy
does to us. It says, envy rots the bones
How do we know if we
have envy? Sometimes, we donít like someone
because he/she offended us or hurt us. But
sometimes, we donít know why we donít like
someone. We cannot explain it. This does not
automatically mean we have envy. But it means we
have to ask, what does he/she have that we do
not have but we want to have. If the other
person has something we do not have but we want
to have, then it is probably envy.
When it gives us
pleasure to criticize the other person, then we
can almost be sure we are envious. We know, we
have envy if we secretly delight to hear the
falls, faults, fumbles, and failures of the
other person. We find delicious satisfaction in
knowing he/she is getting his just rewards for
being ďtoo proudĒ.
The antidote to envy is gratitude for
Godís love and to celebrate our abundance. When
we are grateful, we are satisfied with what we
have and envy will have a hard time finding a
foothold in our heart.
When we are
grateful for Godís blessings, we will be
grateful for Godís blessings in the lives of
others too. Let us be genuinely happy for other
peopleís successes. Let us share in their joy
and in their victory. Then something magical
will happen to our lives because thereís a law
in the universe that states that what we give,
we will receive in abundance (Luke 6:38).
However, if we envy the blessings that other
people receive, we will be driving away those
blessings from our lives.
As iron is eaten by rust, so are the
envious consumed by envy. ~Antisthenes
Our envy always lasts longer than the
happiness of those we envy. ~FranÁois Duc
de La Rochefoucauld