No one ever kicks a dead dog. So when we are kicked and criticized, let us remember that it is often done because it gives the kicker a feeling of importance.  It often means that we are accomplishing something and we are worthy of attention.  Many people get a sense of savage satisfaction out of denouncing those who are better off than they are or more successful, according to Dale Carnegie.

 In our society, there are people who derive pleasure and feel powerful when tormenting, harassing, bullying or singling out someone. The responses of the victim feed the feeling of power in the tormenter. The victim is selected because the bully is jealous and needs to make him/her feel superior and the only way he/she knows is through abuse. We must be doing something well/right if someone torments us. We feel the hurt because we are not a dead dog, but we should take solace in the fact that it is our success that is causing it.

Let us find the seeds of our jealousy. Let us focus our energy on what is good, what is true, what is honest and what is real and we will be building our personal and emotional security. Then we will be the one others envy. Many envious people do not know that they are envious. Actually, envy is as common as the common cold but it is as deadly as cancer. It is like a mental cancer that destroys our lives, our relationships, and our happiness.

Envy is one of the most destructive things on planet earth.  Envy destroys relationship. Envy kills. It kills the envier. It is a lethal, slow-acting poison that over time kills. The Bible is so graphic when it describes what envy does to us. It says, envy rots the bones (Proverbs 14:30).

How do we know if we have envy? Sometimes, we donít like someone because he/she offended us or hurt us. But sometimes, we donít know why we donít like someone. We cannot explain it. This does not automatically mean we have envy. But it means we have to ask, what does he/she have that we do not have but we want to have. If the other person has something we do not have but we want to have, then it is probably envy.

When it gives us pleasure to criticize the other person, then we can almost be sure we are envious. We know, we have envy if we secretly delight to hear the falls, faults, fumbles, and failures of the other person. We find delicious satisfaction in knowing he/she is getting his just rewards for being ďtoo proudĒ.

The antidote to envy is gratitude for Godís love and to celebrate our abundance. When we are grateful, we are satisfied with what we have and envy will have a hard time finding a foothold in our heart. When we are grateful for Godís blessings, we will be grateful for Godís blessings in the lives of others too. Let us be genuinely happy for other peopleís successes. Let us share in their joy and in their victory. Then something magical will happen to our lives because thereís a law in the universe that states that what we give, we will receive in abundance (Luke 6:38). However, if we envy the blessings that other people receive, we will be driving away those blessings from our lives.

Tim Pedrosa

As iron is eaten by rust, so are the envious consumed by envy. ~Antisthenes
Our envy always lasts longer than the happiness of those we envy. ~FranÁois Duc de La Rochefoucauld