Many of us judge without knowing the fact. Dogs bark if they do not know the
person. Our job is not to judge but to figure out whether someone deserves
something or decide who is right or wrong. Our job is to lift the fallen,
restore the broken and heal the hurting. Judging prevents us from seeing the
truth that lies behind what seems to be. When we judge someone, we do not define
that someone, we define ourselves.
proof of greatness lies in being able to endure criticism without
The husband pushed his wife in a sinking cruise ship to save himself. This story teaches us something
very important about life. As the story goes, a teacher was teaching her class
of students when she relayed a story about a cruise ship capsized at sea. On the ship was a couple who, after having
made their way to the lifeboat, realized that there was only space for one
At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat
The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.
The teacher stopped and asked: “What do you think she shouted?”
Most of the students excitedly answered: “I hate you! I was blind!”
Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer
and he replied: “Teacher, I believe she would have shouted – Take care of our
The teacher was surprised, asking: “Have you heard this story before?”
The boy shook his head: “Nope, but that was what my mom told my dad before she
died to disease.”
The teacher lamented: “The answer is right.”
The cruise ship sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter
Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary
while tidying his belongings.
It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already
diagnosed with terminal illness. At the critical moment, the father rushed to
the only chance of survival.
He wrote in his diary: “How I wished to the bottom of the ocean with you, but
for the sake of our daughter. I can only let you lie forever below the sea
The story is finished. The class was completely silent.
The teacher knows that the students have understood the moral of the story, that
of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them
which are hard to understand.
That is why we should never focus only on the surface and judge others without
understanding the facts first.
Do not look for approval except for the
consciousness of doing your best.-Andrew Carnegie
Someday all of us will get separated from each other. We will miss our
conversations and the dreams we had. Days, months and
years will pass until this contact becomes rare.
Someday, someone will see our pictures and ask: “Who are these people?” With
tears in our eyes,
we will smile with invisible tears because our heart is touched
and we will say: “It was them that I had the best days of my life with. They
were there when nobody else was there for me.”
My heart is full of gratitude when I think of those people who were there for me
during the darkest time of my life; when I was struggling to survive; when some
people judged me and tried to put me down for selfish reason. Thank you all, you know who you
By Tim Pedrosa
you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t
be the victim of needless suffering.-Miguel Ruiz