It is but normal for all of us to experience
negative thoughts at times. It is usually
coupled with anger towards ourselves which can
hinder us from moving forward with our lives in
a positive manner. I have learned, however, that
by using negative thoughts as ladder to haul
ourselves back to positivity, will remind us
where we want to be.
The
hardest struggle we will ever
experience in this life is
overcoming our own negativity. |
The best way to deal with negative thought is
finding a way to avoid it or looking forward to
avoid negative thoughts in the future. Instead
of blaming others for our predicament, let us
take responsibility for what we can do. Our best
friend is us. Negativity turns us into our own
judge, jury, and executioner. We still remember
certain mistakes we made in the past that others
have already forgotten. We tend to ignore the
most important lesson that each negative thought
carried with it, just as we are our own harshest
judge, we are also our own best friend.
I have also learned that instead of running
in circles, finding ourselves guilty time and
time again, we can try looking at the problem
impartially, as if a friend is telling us about
his/her problem and asking us for our opinion:
What our advice be? Is it really a problem that
cannot be overcome? When we look at an issue
from the sideline, we can often find a solution
more easily. We will find it easier to connect
with ourselves and stop judging ourselves so
harshly.
Many of our negative thoughts originate from
the false assumptions that they are indisputable
facts. We can be sure that there is a reason for
our shortcomings. Sometimes we act a certain way
because of a specific reason. The assumptions
can be completely wrong, making them into the
feet we use to trip ourselves over when dealing
with future problems.
A
negative mind will never give us a
positive life. |
Let us try reminding ourselves that in any
negative situation, some things that we are not
aware of and are beyond our control may have
taken place. Remember that nobody is omniscient,
but that is perfectly fine. Not all thoughts
that begin in a negative tone are necessarily
negative themselves. It may surprise us, but if
we think about it, we will find out that it is
indeed the case. Let us try and express as many
negative thoughts in a positive way and we may
find out that people who originally reacted to
these thoughts in a negative way, would react to
them differently after they understand the
source of our fears or anger.
Let us move forward and stop collecting
trash. After we have scrutinized our negative
thoughts and learned as much as we can from
them, we can divide them into negative thoughts
that can help us, and those that are nothing but
“trash”. In other words, let us not allow the
trashy thoughts take up space in our head. They
will only slow us down and make us feel unhappy.
No one likes to live in a house that is
filled with trash, and the same goes for us and
our mental space. Instead of punishing ourselves
by preoccupying ourselves with these unnecessary
thoughts which exact a heavy toll on our mental
state, let us try disposing of them as soon as
we can. If a negative thought pops up, treat it
as a memo to clear our mind up and make room for
positivity instead.
By Tim Pedrosa
Beautiful
things happen in our life when we distance ourselves from all the
negative things. |
Tim
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