When we only think of our own self and activities
without showing interest in others, our self-absorption in all its
forms, kills empathy, understanding and compassion. Our world shrinks
as our problems and preoccupations loom larger. But when we focus on
others, our world expands; our own problems drift to the periphery
of the mind and becomes smaller, and we increase our capacity for
connection and compassionate attitude.
Selfish people do not waste their energies in
considering the good of others. Love is nowhere found in their
consciousness. It is love that is always ready to deny itself, to give,
to sacrifice; and is measured by its sincerity and intensity.
make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what
we give.-Winston Churchill
Love is self-forgetfulness. Hence where there is
love, unselfishness prevails. We forget ourselves and live for
others. But where there is selfishness it spoils joy. One selfish
soul will destroy the sweetness of life around us. It is like an
ugly bush in the midst of a garden of flowers. It is selfishness
that could ruin all the loveliness of our relationships. We need to
guard again this kind of spirit.
This focus on money and power may do wonders in the
marketplace, but it creates tremendous crisis in our society.
People who have spent all day learning how to sell themselves and to
manipulate others are in no position to form lasting friendships or
|You give but
little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of
yourself that you truly give.-Khalil Gibran
However many of us still see the world in different
prospective. We hunger for a different kind of society, one based on
principles of caring, ethical and spiritual sensitivity, and
all self-centered in today's world and that often leads to
like the man in the following narrative. But with proper
spirituality, we could turn to be kind and charitable people
and lead a happy and satisfying life.
A man once became rich and his lifestyle changed. Previously, he
gave charity, cared for others and helped them as much as he could.
Now he had become hard-hearted and miserly.
He cared only for himself and never had time for others.
One day, he was visited by his wise old professor who had taught him
in college about acts of kindness…..The rich man showed off his
beautiful home and boasted to the professor about his wealth.
Perceiving the change in his former student, the professor called
him to the window. Pointing to the outside, he asked, "What do you
"I see poor people passing to and fro trying to earn a living," he
Walking over to a large mirror the professor told his rich student
to look in. "Now what do you see?"
"Myself, of course."
"I don't understand," said the professor. "Both the window and the
mirror are made of glass. Yet when you look through the window, you
see the poor people outside but when you look at the mirror, you see
"The reason is simple!" said the rich
man. "The mirror has a silver coating which prevents you from seeing
through. However, the window has no silver coating, so you can see
“Interesting,” the professor said, “Both the window and the mirror
have glass. But the glass of the mirror is covered with a little bit
of silver. And no sooner is the silver added than you cease to see
others, and you see only yourself.” Maybe you'd be better off without the silver!"
Sometimes our troubles begin when a bit of silver was added into
our lives, and we start looking at and stop looking through.
Our selfishness can usually be traced to our selfish
motive to boost or enrich ourselves. It is
a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves.
The only things standing between us and the
compassionate, wise, and creative person we want to be are matters
of choice. Our choice. No one can occupy our kindness except us.
By Tim Pedrosa
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something perverse about more than enough. When we have more, it is
never enough. It is always somewhere out there, just out of reach. The
more we acquire, the more elusive enough becomes. –Unknown