God wants us to forgive. It is something that we can do. Sometimes it
is hard to forgive someone because we naturally want revenge for the
things we have suffered.
Forgiveness seems to go against what we think is right and fair. So
we hold onto our anger, punishing people over and over again in our mind
for the pain they've caused.
Here are some reasons why forgiveness is necessary:
Forgetting is not forgiving. People who want to forget what was done to
them will find that they cannot do it. The thoughts and hurts keep
coming back. The healing cannot begin until we forgive.
Forgiveness is choice, a decision of our will. God tells us never to
take our own revenge (Romans 12:19). Let's trust that God will deal with that
person justly and fairly.
We should forgive others so that we can be set free. Forgiveness is mainly a
matter of obedience to God. He wants us to be free.
Forgiveness is agreeing to live with the consequences of another
personís sin. We are going to have to
live with those consequences, whether we like it or not. Our choice is
whether we will do so in the bondage of bitterness or in the freedom of
forgiveness. We may wonder where the justice is in it. Justice is found
at the cross, which makes forgiveness legally and morally right.
Letís not wait for the other person to ask for forgiveness.
Jesus did not wait for those who were crucifying Him to apologize
before He forgave them. "Father, forgive them," He prayed, "for they
do not know what they are doing" (Luke 23:34).
Letís forgive from the heart. Too often we're afraid of the pain, so we
bury our emotions deep down inside us. Let God bring them to the surface
so He can begin to heal those damaged emotions.
Letís not wait until we feel like forgiving because we will never get there.
We should make the hard choice to forgive even if we don't feel like it. Once we
choose to forgive, Satan will have lost his power over us in that area,
and God's healing touch will be free to move.
Forgiveness is choosing not to hold someoneís sin against him/her. Let
go of the past. Let's refuse to bring up old issues with the person who
wronged us or with others who will listen. Let us reject any thought of
Forgiving oneís enemies does not mean to be fainthearted, but to have a
this prayer: Lord, I choose to forgive (name that person) for (what
he/she did) even though it made me feel (share the painful feeling). Lord,
I choose not to hold any of these things against (name) any longer. I
thank You for setting me free from the bondage of my bitterness toward
(name). I now ask You to bless (name). In Jesus' name, I pray.
By Tim Pedrosa
To forgive is to set the prisoner free, and then discover the prisoner
was you. There
is no human being who does not deserve your forgiveness. There is no
human being who does not deserve your love...