has something to teach us why there might be five hundred apples on the
tree, each with ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds. We might ask, why would
we need so many seeds to grow just a few more trees. It's telling us that most seeds never grow. So if
want to make something happen, we better try more than once.
This might mean
that we may have to attend
twenty interviews to get one job; interview forty people to find one good employee; talk to fifty people to sell one house, car, vacuum cleaner,
insurance policy, or idea; and we might meet a hundred acquaintances to
find one special
When we understand the
Law of the Seed, we don't get so disappointed; we
stop feeling like victims; laws of nature are not things to take
personally; we just need to understand them and work with them.
In a nutshell, successful
people fail more often. They plant more seeds. When things are beyond our control,
it is a recipe for permanent misery if we decide to think how the world should be and make rules for how everyone should behave; then, when the world doesn't obey
we are angry! That's
what miserable people do!
we expect that:
People should appreciate us.
Planes should arrive on time.
Everyone should be honest.
Our spouse should remember our birthday.
These expectations may sound
reasonable. But often, these things won't
happen! So we end up frustrated and disappointed. There's a better
strategy. Have less demands. Instead, have preferences! For things that are
beyond our control, let us tell ourselves to prefer A, but if B happens,
it's OK too!
This is really a game that we should play in our head. It
is a shift in attitude, and it gives us more peace of mind. We prefer
that people are polite ... but when they are rude, it doesn't ruin our
day. We prefer sunshine ... but rain is ok!
To become happier, we either
need to change the
world, or change our thinking. It is easier to change our thinking!
In a nutshell,
it's not what
happens to us that determines our happiness. It's how we think about what happens to
A truly happy
person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour. He who bends well,