All We Ever Did

It is our job as parents to guide our children's behavior, but it can sometimes be challenging to find the right balance of care and discipline.

As long as we communicate our unconditional love and explain our reasons, it is okay to be firm in the way we discipline our children. Every family has rules. The trick is to communicate rules and values so our children will listen and learn and be able to express their own feelings in a positive way.

The Bible strongly stresses the importance of discipline; it is something we must all have in order to be productive people, and it is much more easily learned when we are young.

Children who are not disciplined often grow up rebellious, have no respect for authority, and as a result, find it difficult to willingly obey and follow the rules as we learn in the following story.

Once upon a time there was a little boy who was given everything he wanted. As an infant, he was given a bottle at the first little whimper. He was picked up and held whenever he fussed. His parents said, "He'll think we don't love him if we let him cry."

Love without discipline is false; discipline without love is force.

He was never disciplined for leaving the garden, even after being told not to. He suffered no consequence for breaking windows or tearing up flower beds. His parents said, "He'll think we don't love him if we stifle his will."

His mother picked up after him and made his bed. His parents said, "He'll think we don't love him if we give him chores." 


Nobody ever stopped him from using bad words. He was never reprimanded for scribbling on his bedroom wall. His parents said, "He'll think we don't love him if we restrain his creativity."


He was never required to go to Sunday school. His parents said, He'll think we don't love him if we force religion down his throat."


One day the parents received news that their son was in jail on a felony charge. They cried to each other, "All we ever did was to love him and do things for him." Unfortunately, that is, indeed, all they did.

Discipline corrects and trains us to go the right way. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.


Effective discipline must be loving, as it should be between parent and child. It must always be followed immediately by comforting assurance that the child is loved. It is also a perfect time to teach a child that God disciplines us because He loves us and as parents, we do the same.

Most parents use what they consider the best methods to produce the needed behavioral change for their children. Some parents find that “time-outs,” grounding, and/or taking something away from the children are more effective in encouraging behavioral change.

While the Bible undeniably advocates physical discipline, the Bible is more concerned with the goal of building godly character than it is in the precise method used to produce that goal.

By Tim Pedrosa


Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.  Proverbs 22:5 ?