We would only get resentment and annoyance if we worry about being better than anyone else. Instead, we could focus on being better than ourselves by making today an improvement over yesterday. And when tomorrow rolls around, we may find ways to improve even more.

Comparing ourselves to others in a negative way would only lead to arrogance, disappointment and frustration, neither of which would be of positive value to us. But by comparing ourselves to ourselves, we then have something with which to work on.

We could positively inspire, improve ourselves and create good relationships  when we think about what we could learn from other people. By looking into their personalities and traits, with our words and actions we could somehow recognize, value and appreciate their fine qualities and accomplishments.

We could develop the habit of spotting goodness instead of mistakes, weaknesses or limitations of things, situations and people around us. If we focus on what is good and go beyond the curtain of negativity, we would feel good about ourselves. On the contrary if we constantly see what is wrong, we create a barrier which blocks us from reaching our own goodness.

There is very little difference in people but that little difference makes a big difference. This difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.

Appreciating others with sincerity allows them to remove their masks and feel at ease with who they are. The feeling of being appreciated gives them the freedom to be themselves and then lets them easily know and accept themselves too; and they would reciprocate accordingly to our friendship.

Envy serves no positive purpose. So when we start to feel envious, we choose instead to transform the good fortune of others into inspiration. When we see progress and achievement of other people, we could allow what we see to inspire us. In fact, the success of another person serves to show us how the same level of success can be brought about in our own lives.

Relationships of all kinds are like sand held in our hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute we close our hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through our fingers. We may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled.

The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.

A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it s likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.

When we delight in the good fortune of others, we put ourselves in position to share that good fortune. The more we celebrate life’s abundance, the more solidly we connect to that abundance.

Has someone else accomplished or attained something that we would dearly love to have? Let us encourage ourselves to be inspired by the successes and accomplishments of others. Let that inspiration sink deeply into ourselves, so that it has a place within us where it will always be. Then take that inspiration and put it into real, positive, and effective action.

By Tim Pedrosa

If I allow bitterness and resentment to fester inside, it will make my relationships guarded and unsatisfying. The more I close down to others, the more I become a stranger to myself. By letting go of sorrow and negativity, I can keep my nature open and loving. Remaining open to life, with its constant adventures and opportunities to grow, is the only way to reach my full potential. ~unknown