I asked them to close their eyes and bow their heads. They were a great
group of young married couples that I had learned to know over the years.
Then I asked the big question. "Would you raise one finger if
you have ever wondered whether you married the right person?"
Half the group raised one finger. That didn't surprise me. I thought the
percentage would have been more than that.
Wondering is, after all, merely a mental exercise. I've been to Tibet many
times, but only in my mind. It's effortless and inexpensive. Mental
journeys don't take much work.
Don't be shocked if someday into your mind pops the ugly question,
"Did I marry the right person?" The answer to the question
isn't found by looking back at your wedding day. That is history.
The answer is found in today. The only question that matters is: "Am
I now married to the right person?" And the answer is still yes. Time
and effort may be needed for you to see the potential for your
relationship to grow in love and respect again. But as you commit
yourselves to sorting out the differences that brought on the doubts, your
marriage will be as genuine, viable and hopeful as you saw it to be from
The day may come for each of you when you ask yourself if this was the
right choice. Don't be frightened by the question. Too many feel the very
question itself is an admission of defeat. Let it come and let it go. What
you should or should not have done doesn't matter. The real
challenge is "What will you do now?" Almost all marriages
are real, viable, and hopeful. Love, and work with what you have.
* DEAR LORD, we have been together for so many years and we are
such a privileged couple. We watch the years go by and we treasure
each one. Yes, how we loved every minute of it. At times we wish we
could just slow down the clock and have our lives go on forever.
Lord, as we continue to enjoy life together, make us realize that we are
wonderfully married to the right person, for we trust that it was You who
brought us together. And so by Your grace let each phase of our
marriage -- from the springtime of our youth to the autumn of our days --
be filled to the brim with dreams that are fulfilled. Stay ever
close to us, Lord, and make each passing year a fruitful one. So that when
the big harvest draws near we can look back with happy memories, knowing
that we have done everything we could to make each other's life and the
lives of our children happier, richer, and more beautiful.
By William L. Coleman--
* Prayer by jgat
Shared by Joe Gatuslao
one falls in love by choice, only by chance. No one stays in love by
chance, only with work. No one falls out of love by chance only by
because someone doesn't love you the way you want him/her to, doesn't mean
he/she doesn't love you with all he/she has. Make
yourself a better person and know who you are, before you try and
know someone else and expect him/her to know you.